At least a few times a week it feels like I read a post where someone "snooped" through their spouse's phone, or their spouse "snooped" in theirs. And it always perplexes me because there's this notion that the person who snooped crossed this sacred line and they should feel remorseful for even thinking it, let alone doing it.
I find this really strange because my wife and I have always had access to each other's phone, predominantly because it's convenient, and also because not letting her be able to access it would feel disrespectful. Like, my kids should have to ask permission to unlock any device to use. But she's not my child. And she's not a stranger. And she's not a friend, or even a close family member. She's my wife.
Also, neither of us would ever feel like the other was "snooping" if they went through our phone. In fact, if she did it in front of my face, and told me she was snooping, I'd laugh, then she would, because it's such a weird notion. If anything, I would be hurt by the idea that something made her feel like she couldn't trust me or I was betraying her in any way. I wouldn't feel wronged by her looking through my phone. Not because I'm some saintly husband and more virtuous than everyone else. But because my wife is infinitely more valuable to me than my phone. It's a phone.
Anyway, I know that was long. And I'm not here to just criticize people who feel differently about the subject. I'm genuinely curious. Would you feel wronged if you found out your spouse went through your phone? If so, why?