Im on my way to a wedding right now as I type this and I guess im feeling self conscious about my situation.

I recently got out of a year and 3 month relationship with my boyfriend, during that time he had gifted me a matching ring, which was essentially a promise ring as we wore it 24/7 and on eachothers ring finger.

Fast forward to the breakup they have told me they took off the ring and told me I can do whatever I am comfortable with regarding mine. I obviously was devastated and asked him what he wanted me to do instead as he was the one that gifted and paid for it. He once again stated whatever I wanted to do and when I explained that it feels wrong to wear a ring that was a promise of a relationship he said "meanings can change" and that it could be a ring for friendship instead. I had many thoughts about it but im trying to keep this post brief.

They broke up with me as he was moving back to his country (we were long distance) and didnt know what to do and apparently for a few months his feelings changed and said "didnt love me anymore but cared a lot about me"

Im still wearing the ring and im sure plenty of you will say not to, but im so devastated by the whole situation and I have never once taken off the ring unless it was to clean/polish it. I tried to in the past a few days afterward but I ended up panicking and couldn't bring myself to do it. I still deeply love my partner and id really like to hope in the future we can figure things out.I kind of lied to myself saying im only keeping the ring on as I used to work in customer service and it was to keep creepy men from hitting on me.

Im not sure ive im giving enough context or information so if you have any questions or need clarification im more than happy to explain in the comments. Im just really hurt he took it off but told me I could keep it on as a "friendship" ring instead.

I was thinking maybe in the future I could keep the ring and put it on a necklace chain instead to wear underneath my clothes, But im not sure if thats appropriate.


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