I'm having a bad day and just got the realization – no one, not even the most attentive partner is gonna nurse you back to normal better when you will.
For me, when I'm out of sorts everything must be done just the way I like it – coffe, laundry and even closing the fridge door has only one 'right' way to do it – my way – and a thousand 'wrong' ways. In other words, everything and anything will trigger me.
My husband is reaaaaly lucky to have chosen me, I know. This poor soul tries to help me on my worst moments and only gets snide looks. And don't even have me started on the days when we both are sick, tired or just angry about the world.
So, back to my come to Jesus moment – no one is more capable to get you back to your amazing self better when you. And if you are a bit like me, you have an obligation to your marriage and your understanding but oblivious partner to do it sooner when later. So if you are in a bad mood do your marriage a favor and recharge. It's not selfish – it's for the greater good of both partners.
So go get that extra latte, buy that thing you bookmarked or binge that niche TV show that only you like. Because it's easy to love someone when they are happy, but when you are the worst, only you can love yourself the strongest.