We met a few months ago and formalized a relationship one month ago so this is fairly new. At first him being a therapist and his literary intrest meant we could talk about anything, but as time goes by i feel like he avoids talking to me about his real, difficult feelings and hides behind really long winded jokes, sketches or psycology rants until i get frustrated and/or angry bc he does not answer my questions. After that he stays in silence and stops talking only to give me a roundabout half assed answer. Its driving me up the walls. I love a good joke and a good heavy conversation or discussion, but i thing when talking about feelings its important to be candid, open an non pretencious. Also he asks for my opinion on an idea and if i get heated in the argument, and interrumpt or something bothers him instead of telling me right away he simmers in it, gets weird and snaps later being really bitter about it.
He is slowly starting to make a sport of annoying me, he thinks its funny but its running me down really fast.
Keep in mind this guy is a therapist and has extensive knowledge on how feelings and the mind work, and im an artist, and a really sensitive one for good or bad. Also he has told me sometimes he find me expansive, sexually intimidating, and a bit caotic. I am also really transparent and direct.
So sometimes when i try to ask him about how he feels, when he feels cornered he starts going really heavy on questions about why am i worried about his feelings and questioning my statement turns into a harsh revision of delicate trauma that sometimes ends in a panic atack.
So i am kind of at the end of my rope, he has really hard defenses and an easy evasive way with words, i need to get him talking about his feelings bc i can feel him growing resented and weird about a 1000 litte things.Ive tried sweet, direct, bit harsher but he just retreats.
How can get him talking?