I'm 22M and my girlfriend is 20F. When we first started dating, she would occasionally comment on how certain actors or famous guys were attractive or “hot.” At first, I didn’t really care. I get it. There are plenty of attractive people out there, and we all notice beauty.
But over time, it’s started to bother me. She doesn’t just make casual comments. She’ll say things like “oh my god, I would totally go for him,” or “he’s the only man I’d actually want.” Whenever we watch a movie or show together, she seems more focused on pointing out how hot the guys are than actually enjoying the plot.
She just spent a week at her grandmother’s in another state, and one of the first things she told me when she got back was how she watched movies with her friend “because the guys were hot.” Honestly, that stung a bit.
I don’t expect her to ignore attractive people, but it feels excessive and kind of disrespectful at this point, especially when it's so frequent and said directly to me.
I haven’t brought it up yet because I don’t want to come off as insecure or controlling. But it is starting to affect how I feel in the relationship.
So, am I being too sensitive here? Or is this a valid concern worth bringing up?