Hello everyone, me [25F] and my partner [25M] have been together for almost a year, and I don’t know if questioning my love for this person is normal.
He’s perfect in almost every way, I have absolutely nothing to complain about. The way he treats me, work ethic, looks, helping with anything he can for literally anything, he’s all around an amazing person.
The issue that I have been noticing in the past 2-3 months is that 99% or our conversations are small talk. I find it really difficult to connect with someone on a deeper level if at least from time to time we don’t discuss life, the future, philosophical view, just anything to get to KNOW know the person. Apparently to him it’s just not something he’s interested in discussing, and every time we got close to a similar conversation I either had to push it a lot, or I just get short answers to question that lead to nowhere. I noticed this at the very start of the relationship, but I thought after we get closer he’ll have the urge to get to know each other in a similar way, but this never came. I know he loves me, and I adore the person that he is, but I’ve just been noticing myself seeing him as more and more of a stranger. I don’t feel excited or giddy when he send me a message or tells me he loves me (which he does multiple times a day), or at least I don’t have the same reaction as how I did at the start of the relationship. I do love him, but I do feel a big gap and it’s almost like I have to push myself to love someone I don’t truly know (which wasn’t like this at the start).
It’s my first serious relationship, so I don’t know if it’s just the honeymoon phase ending or it’s something to really be worried about. I’m very confused about my own feelings. I do want to be with him, I really do, for about a month I’ve been asking myself daily if I love this person and if I want to be with him, and every day I tell myself that yes, this is what I feel and this is what I want. I just don’t know if this is normal, is even questioning it normal?
I would love to hear if someone had a similar experience and if you have advice on it! Also, I apologise if it sounds ridiculous, I’m very prone to anxiety and my relationship is the last thing I want to to ruin, so maybe hearing someone was in a similar situation or it’s a universal experience would help haha