I apologise for any gammatic errors I might make in this post. English is not my first language.
Hi, I (20/NB) and my partner (24/M) have been in a relationship the last 10 months. Neither of us were looking for a committet relationship (we meet on a hookup-app), but we both just immediately fell head over heels for each other. My partner actually unofficially moved into my appartment after we had only known each other for about a month.
Anyway, on to the problem. We had a great sex-life in the beginning of our relationship (almost every day), but it has gradually disappeared completely. The same applies to romantic gestures such as kissing and cuddling. When it first began to disappear I tried to initiate more, but was met with comments like "all you ever think about is sex" or "why do you keep asking? It's too much pressure" which honestly made me feel really awful and disgusting about myself. I dont want to pressure my partner at all, but for me it was really hard graduating from great intimacy to no intimacy in a few months.
We have talked a lot about it, and every time I tell them that I feel overlooked and uncared for they promise to make an effort, but continues to fail.
I also generally struggle with my mental health, and I feel this relationship dynamic has begun to take a tool. I dont feel prioritised and loved the way I used to, but I dont want to break up over something so seemingly meaningless to my partner. They do tell me that they love me at least once every day, but I've realised that's not enough for me, and it kind of feels selfish of me. Is it?
It's important for me to clarify that it is NOT just about sex, but the act of showing love in a physical way. I'm just tired of trying to convince my partner to show me love, when they obviously (for some unknown reason) refuse to.
Anyway, do anyone have any advice? Is this relationship over?