Hi All,
I am from Indian metropolitan city. I have got myself into a dilemma and I dont know what to make of it.
We got married a year ago and it has been pretty exhausting. She goes to office daily and I do WFH most days. I do all the chores but expectations never end. I do all my work and some more chores around the house. We have a cook and a cleaning lady so work is all covered. We go for movies outings on weekedns. But my wife is never at ease.I love her and care for her but there is something wrong going on. And to add to it my sex life is terrible. I am the one who always initiates and she is never in the mood. We have done it a few times but I think she just does it as a courtesy. I am getting rejected most of the times.
3 months back while I was in her cupboard looking for something and I saw a vibrator. It was a bit disappointing and shattering. I asked her about it and first she told it was a body massager for pain(I was not convinced) .Then she told that she had not used it since marriage and some other stuff.I t was a downer to be honest vibrator being preferred to you.I told her it is okay as everyone has needs but dont tell me it is not a vibrator and I let it slide. Then during a casual conversation topic of vibrator was brought up and she told me she has thrown it away. I asked her again really you threw it and she said yes I threw it. I said you didn't need to but anyways. Things were murky as before.
The thing is she has again brought a new vibrator. I dont know when but I recently found out. Honestly it has shattered my confidence and is causing me a lot of stress. Am okay with it if she wants to use it but why the need to lie. Now here is the kicker when I want sex I am a pervert according to her and am constantly judged by her. Our sex life is almost nil these days, she is always not in the mood snappy or exhausted and I am constantly rejected. She makes it a point to make issues of small things and then stops speaking for few days.
I have asked her multiple times during the course of a year if there is a issue in marriage you want to improve something but she doesn't want to have any discussion only ready to nitpick small flaws. Really need some advice here what to make of all of this