My husband has a habit of ignoring me when he’s upset with me. yesterday he got upset with me because I apparently looked angry throughout the day, I didn’t feel angry but maybe my face or mood was low .. I’m not really sure, I felt fine and told him this multiple times.
I made him breakfast as I usually do, spent time with him etc, and when we went shopping I even paid for a shirt he wanted, I did this to show that I was not angry and I wanted to do something nice for him.
When we came back from shopping the neighbour was out and I smiled and nodded at her, while I waited for him to come out of the car he said hello to the neighbour and then started to tell me off about how I’m being rude and I should say hi… I got annoyed at the point and said I don’t care if you think I’m angry. I went to take a nap, woke up and made dinner. He didn’t talk to me even though I was making an effort. He went to play games online for hours without even saying bye.
I know this doesn’t sound bad but he does this in a way to punish me, so when he finally came out of his room. I asked him if everything was okay because I was feeling ignored by him. He started saying how I’ve been weird all day and basically that it was my fault he was acting this way. I fully crashed out because I felt unfairly stonewalled.
We’ve only been married for 3 months, how can I get him to understand that this hurts me and if he continues to ignore me, I will shut off from him. I understand that he might need time to process things, but why can’t he just tell me he needs space. Last time he ignored me, I gave him space thinking he would come and talk to me when he was ready, he ignored me for 3 days ( would have gone longer if I didn’t say anything to him and again crashed out)
I would appreciate any help please