Hi! I hate going to reddit for this but honestly when I’ve talked about this to my friends, they always are supportive of me and I honestly feel like I need an objective peanut gallery.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months, and he is so perfect. I count myself so lucky to have him, and ever since we have known each other, I’ve been chasing him around genuinely like a puppy. Im not used to this. I’ve never had a boyfriend before him, just hookups and situationships that were purely for fun. I never had to chase, and I would always be treated like I was royalty.
I know that relationships are different. They’re supposed to be calm, non-love-bomby, and consistent. But again, this is my first relationship, and i don’t know what i don’t know. But it’s been six months and the only time I’ve gotten flowers is because his friend bullied him into it, the first text of the day from him throughout this entire week has always been around 6-8pm, and I barely get attention.
And to just make sure that there are no double standards going on, I do my best to treat him the way he deserves. I feed him, pay for him, and make sure he knows hes wanted. Not saying that any of this is transactional, i do this because i am head over heels for him.
But my question moreso is, is he even interested or is he here because i am just convenient? I’ve told him how I’ve felt before, but i fear if i keep asking, he’ll just do good for a few weeks and go back like he’s been doing. I love him and i care for him, but I dont know how to communicate that if I am not who he wants, and that this relationship isn’t what he needs, then I will let it go. Because I do love him, but I dont want him to think hes in a corner. I want him to have that option. How do i go about this?
TL;DR: I am in love with my boyfriend, but I don’t think he feels the same. How do I let him know this is a safe space to tell me if he needs to choose a different path than us?