I 22f recently went for coffee with a guy 22M from my school. I am conflicted with my feelings. I have never been in a relationship or dated before. This was my first experience going on a “date,” and while it went well and he was nice, I was filled with anxiety afterwards. I don’t know if I like him, nor do I know if I should like him at this point. We had a decent conversation, and I could see us being friends, but we didn’t necessarily have a lot in common, and just went through a lot of the conversation that you have when getting to know someone. I didn’t feel a strong sense of attraction, not that he is unattractive, but rather I didn’t feel romance. We ended on a somewhat awkward note, as we are neighbors, but basically said general goodbyes as we walked to our doors. He texted me afterwards to say he had enjoyed talking and would like to go on another date. The word date made me so anxious that I immediately called my friend. I don’t know how I should feel after one meeting. It’s not that I don’t like him, he’s a nice person and I enjoyed talking as well, but I don’t know if I like him in a romantic sense. I have only ever liked people I have been friends with, and we connected through Hinge and had only texted for a few days before meeting. Ultimately, I told him that I would like to hang out again to get to know each other better and made tentative plans to do an activity this upcoming weekend. My dilemma is that I'm honestly not sure how I should feel. Should you just know that you like someone immediately after a first date, or is it normal to be unsure if you feel a romantic connection? How many dates without feeling a connection can you go on?? When should you just call it? I don’t want to cut it off prematurely before knowing if those feelings could grow. How do you judge this?
TLDR: how long should it take to know you like someone?