After struggling with some sexual libido differences, I decided to write this letter to my wife. what do you think? Would it be a soft way to get the point across?
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I’ve been thinking about us a lot lately, specifically about how much I love what we have and how grateful I am for you. You’re my person. You’ve been my calm, my home, and my favorite part of every day.
There’s something I want to share, not because anything is wrong, but because you and I matter to me so much. I’ve been feeling this desire to connect with you more, not just emotionally, but physically too. It’s not about numbers or how often or anything like that. It’s about wanting that spark between us to feel alive and playful again.
Sometimes I catch myself thinking about what it would be like to explore more together like to be spontaneous, to laugh in the middle of it, to get lost in each other again. I want to touch you, kiss you, go down on you and not just for the act itself, but because I love giving you pleasure. It makes me feel close to you in a way nothing else does.
I know everyone experiences desire differently, and that’s okay. I don’t want to pressure you or make you feel like you’re not enough. You are more than enough and always have been. I just want to keep discovering each other, like we did when everything was new. I want us to talk about what feels good, what doesn’t, what excites you, what turns you on so it’s something we build together, not something I’m chasing alone.
If there’s something I can do that helps you feel more relaxed or more in the mood, tell me. I’ll listen. I just want to meet you where you are, and maybe, little by little, bring that fire back in a way that feels good for both of us.
I love you deeply. This letter isn’t about frustration, it’s about how much I care. You mean more to me than you know, and I just want every part of our connection, emotional, physical, and everything in between, to be as strong and alive as it can be.