I feel ignored and humiliated. Need honest advice
Hello. I would like to hear eye opening, brutal and honest replies from guys point of view. I am '29 F' and the boy im talking about is the same age.
Its not really a situation but for a few years I have been obsessing over a friend. Lets begin from the beginning. During my university days, I had a class fellow who was full of himself. well i didnt know about him alot but somehow during the final tests we became like fb friends. We never talked in person AT ALL. I added him as a class fellow and he added me back. Well we only talked about exams in studies via texting. We graduated and thats it.
Well it's not that simple.
We have been friends for years now and we both respect each other. Nothing romantic no bullshit etc. We both are doing well in life. Ya I would message him like once a year asking how's he doing and we would exchange a few messages and thats it. Once I messaged him, he replied once and then never replied after that. The problem starts here. I have been feeling insulted .. why? I dont know. We were never romantically involved, he never promised anything, funny thing we never talked in person. Why am I so obsessed. Is it any guilt? Likeness? Feeling of rejection or what? I totally understand he was never interested in the first place. Hes busy and doesnt need to reply me .. we are nothing to each other but just formal friends. I dont obsess over people who dont repond to me. I dont hold ego or grudges at all. Im a super flexible person and honestly i dont understand why am i feeling rejected or insulted at this. Im pretty sure he doesnot even think about me. I expect nothing at all.. but what is bothering me. Its been years and im going crazy about that reply. I know guys are straight forward. They would call or text you from mars ,if they are interested or busy. And they dont talk when not interested. As I said I dont expect anything from him at all. We have no history either. I dont usually feel that way for anyone else. What is hurting me. What is killing me every day. I don't want to msg him again ever again. But suggest me something. How to stop obsessing over something this stupid. I have wasted enough time pondering over it. I would dream about him and man im going crazy.
Boys suggest me something.. open my eyes. Please tell me how to ignore something if its not working.
TL;DR; : I am obsessing over a guy i wa never involved in person. We were classfellows and fb friends and now when he didn't reply me I feel humiliated and insulted. Please advice how to stop obsessing over this situation.