I (29F) have been with my fiancé (31M) for about a year. (We know each other for more then 10 years) He proposed to me this summer. We met each other’s families, and he often said things like that I’m his “treasure,” his “win,” that he’s so lucky to have found me.
But from the very beginning, I discovered messages where he was flirting and sexting with other girls, even trying to meet up with them. We broke up, but after some time apart, I decided to give him another chance. Things were good again — we went on vacations together, spent weekends at a cottage, and I really thought we were moving forward.
Then, recently, I checked his messages again. I found that in August, while I was away on holiday, he was sexting another woman. They exchanged explicit photos and videos and even used a sexual app called Love Spouse where they could “control” each other in real time. He said to her, that they will have to stop it if things get more serious between us. It was like 3 days sexting.
When I confronted him, he denied it at first, then admitted it and said he regrets it. He says he wants to stay together and make things right, but I just don’t know if I can ever trust him again.
To add some context — I have mental illness and I’m currently in a depressive phase, which makes this even harder to deal with. I feel like I’m losing myself in all of this.
I need someone to hear me out, I can't talk to anyone about this, because if we stay together they will hate him (like last time). I still love him deeply, but I don’t know if love is enough anymore. I wish we could be together and for him to stop doing this to me. How he can plan future and kids together then throw it away for some quick attention like this.
My question is I guess, what should I do now? Can't imagine future without him now, I used to be so happy..
TL;DR: My fiancé has cheated (sexting, sending explicit photos, using a sexual app with another woman). He says he regrets it, but I don’t know if I can ever trust him again. I love him, but I’m not sure love is enough anymore. What should I do?