We don't talk but see each other multiple times a day.
Over a year ago I told my 2 best friends/coworkers that I'm interested in this guy, G. A lot of people at work know who he is. I have high social anxiety so I struggle talking unless I have an "in" or feel comfortable with someone. Friend 1, S, is outspoken. She started occasionally chatting up G- asked if he's single, things he'd be interested in doing, etc. S told him she had a friend she thinks would be a good set up for him. It went on for a couple months, she'd catch him about every few weeks. Eventually S asked again if G was ready for the number she had (mine) and he told her sure, but it would be a while- G told her he was trying to hopefully get rid of his ex soon. Supposedly he put it in his wallet (she supposedly never told him it was me.)
A few months later I got the courage to message him, asking if he was interested in going with me to something I had tickets for. I admitted the number was mine, that I was extremely nervous asking, and understood if he said no. He explained he couldn't, saying he still had his ex around for some time yet (a family thing) but maybe sometime when things settle we could hang out. I thanked him for being kind and not making me feel stupid, to which he told me there was nothing to feel stupid about.
A couple weeks ago I made some cookies and took them to work. I bet my other friend/coworker, W, to ask if he wanted any. He said maybe later. 15 minutes later he came back for them, and when W pointed to me I literally tossed the bag to him before he could come over. 🤦
Now that I look back I feel like ever since I messaged him he's sort of avoiding me. He'll pass by one moment and then the next few times take a different route (I know sometimes there's reasons). And now a few days so I saw him in public but was with my brother, so I'm going he doesn't think I'm unavailable.
I'm confused if the maybe was a real maybe, that he is interested but really can't right now, or if he was just giving a nice rejection. I don't want to push when he's not ready or not available like he said. I've thought about sending a friend request but feel it's been too long and would be odd.
I'd really be interested in giving him a chance if waiting gave the possibility.