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I (19F) don’t know if I can trust my boyfriend (19M) anymore. The first time we had a misunderstanding was when he told me I was the first person he had said ‘I love you’ to. I later found out while I had his phone in my hands that he actually said that to his ex before. When I confronted him about it he said that he did not lie, and that even if he said that to her, he didn’t actually mean it. He said that what he felt for her doesn’t even get close to what he feels for me. So that is why he said that I’m his first ‘I love you’. I fought hard against my thoughts and I have kinda come to terms with it.
Some time ago, I also found out that he kept his ex’s photos and did not delete them. He said that even if she treated him badly, those photos are from a period that helped him grow. I expressed how they made me uncomfortable, and he promised he would delete them. One day after, he said that he had deleted them and that he burned all her gifts.
Our anniversary is coming up soon. I wanted to print some of our photos, but since I recently changed my phone, I didn’t have our old ones. I asked him if I could borrow his phone and take some of our photos. He hesitated and said I could, but I had to stay away from the hidden ones because there were things I was not supposed to see. I asked about it and he said there’s photos of the gifts he wants to give me for our anniversary. Even when I promised I would listen to him, he stayed close to me looking at what I did with his phone. I found this behavior to be extremely suspicious. He normally would give me his phone if I asked. Today I got the chance to sneak a look at the hidden photos. My gut feeling was right. He had not deleted his ex’s photos. They were right there in the hidden album. No trace of these ‘gifts’ I should have not seen. I don’t know what to do nor what to think. He always said it did not bother him that he deleted them because I am more important. Guess not.
Our anniversary is next week. I don’t want to risk starting a fight now. What should I do?
TLDR: my boyfriend lied to me about keeping photos of his ex. Our anniversary is in a week, what should I do?