Hello everyone,
I was wondering whether other people can relate to this or if you have any advice, because I’m getting tired.
In every longer and secure relationship I’ve (F) had, my libido went downhill after several months. In the beginning of the relationship, I usually have the higher sex drive and just the feeling of being wanted/desired by my partner feels super arousing and sex feels good, too. But after a while, this doesn’t seem to be enough for me anymore. I just lose the attraction, don’t really get horny at all or feel icked by them trying to make me horny. Nothing feels good anymore, probably because I’m never in the mood. I thought maybe it’s because I focuse on their pleasure too much and that I don’t know what I like, but I’ve been experimenting and everything I thought I liked when the relationship started just didn’t satisfy me after some time…
The only time my sexual attraction stayed for over two years was with a situationship that was super unstable and insecure, I kinda feel like it was because that was the only way to keep them for the time. it just seems like I only have sex to hook or keep my partners, never for me…
I just don’t know what to do anymore, I’ve had several relationships end because of this and I am in one now where I haven’t lost the lust yet. Do you have any idea how to prevent this?