Me (28M) and my gf (24F) haven’t had sex in 3 months. This is the longest we have gone without sex since we met 5 years ago. For the past 2 years our sex life has been slowing down. We have tried to talk about it, but we’re not really finding any solutions.
I feel unwanted. I kiss her everyday I leave for work and when I come home, but she never kisses me. It’s always me that initiate the kiss. If I tell her I want her to kiss me more often, she does for a few days then stop.
We never argue and we enjoy eachothers company, but right now it feels more like she’s my roommate than my partner. When we have sex it’s very basic. She does not let me play with her nipples or vagina. She also don’t like tongue kissing. All these things are things I like to do during foreplay. Ofcourse I have to respect her boundaries, but I don’t really know what else I can do. I try different things to arouse her, but we always just end up using the vibrator.
None of us have even tried to initiate sex since last time. I have not felt turned on at all which is very unusual for me. She says she has not been turned on either, but I can see that’s she’s been using her toys while I’m at work. This is making me feel even more unwanted.
Not sure is there is any way of coming back from this or we just have grown apart.