Not too much context needed to be honest, I have a very high sex drive, my gf has an incredibly low sex drive, sex is a very important thing for me in a relationship and we don’t have it. We’ve had probably nearly 100 chats about it at this point where i’ll tell her that it’s something important to me and i feel like my needs aren’t being met in the relationship. She says she will try harder and sometimes she does for a day or two.
She doesn’t ever initiate intimacy unless she feels like the relationship is on the line and in that case she will do just enough to shut me up until we end up back where we started. I understand how difficult it must be from her point of view because other than this our relationship is pretty good but this leads to other issues and is the root cause of almost all of our problems.
i’ve tried compromises and meeting in the middle but in the end nothings worked. This is a problem she’s had in her previous relationship too and she thinks it’s just who she is. unfortunately i think she’s right. She’s perfect for me in every other way and i love her more than anything so i feel so trapped. I’m stuck between choosing to stay with her and be unhappy for the rest of my life or leave her and be absolutely crushed for the foreseeable.
I know the choice has already made itself but i thought i might as well look for some advice incase any one has overcome the same problem themself. It’s made so much harder because we are so compatible in everything else. am i being overdramatic or are my needs being ignored going to destroy the relationship anyway.
Looking for actual advice please not just to be told “break up with her” over and over