We've been together a year, but I'm doubting everything and kind of feel stupid.
We met online and hit it off instantly and we were both looking so there was no reason to not go for things. A lot of boxes were checked for me and he assured me I was the kind of person he's been looking and needed in his life. Lots of romance and big emotions between us. We'd talked about being loved bombed by others before and agreed that what we had wasn't that, it was compatibility, genuine interest and a wanting of companionship and love.
There were some red flags in the beginning considering we are long distance, like not really having the kind of communication I wanted (voice chats, video calls, etc) but I gave the benefit of the doubt because he was working on several business plans and had other stuff going on. He did promise to make up for it all, usually saying 'in [x] months or weeks we'll do everything you want'
Around 4 months in, he went into the hospital. I won't go into details, but he's apparently still there. I will say that I've worked in healthcare for over a decade and a lot of suff he's told me hasn't lined up from symptoms to treatment and a lot of in between stuff but I didn't think he was full on lying or anything, maybe just not as knowledgeable about his own health. But by his description(s), he's experiencing a loss of quality of life in a pretty big way.
We still texted everyday, until 'something happened' and now he can only use his phone once a week for a limited time (my healthcare people know what he was hinting at) and it's been like that for the last 3 months. Well, something else has happened and now he's going away for 3-4 months.
The flip side is, he's been active on socials. I've asked him about it and after he gets done spiraling or shutting down(he's very 'sensitive' to a lot), he says it's his friend doing things like entering contests and how he hasn't logged into anything. It's his friend. Well, one particular platform for a game has when you've played against people, like a log, and there's several dates that don't line up with what he's told me. I reached out to one of the people and she confirmed that they've talked, they use to have something romantic but that she's not interested now. I don't really believe that but I'm not mad at her or anything.
What the hell is going on? Of course when I reach out to him he's not answering but I know he sees my messages. That game? He was online earlier today. I couldn't imagine he's lying and manipulating me using health issues but now I think he is. He's told me he's loved me throughout this whole thing, how I've helped him want to get better, future planned to hell, etc. But then all of what I keep seeing? I just don't understand.
Any and all advice is welcomed and I'll answer any questions for clarity.