Hello everyone,
So we have had a few discussion regarding this. I wish to get married by dec 2027. We have been together 3 years and marriage has always been a goal for me.
Now my bf plans to start his masters next year August, we both are in the same country and our parents too. His masters will be full time ( 1 year to 1.5 years long). I myself did my masters part time while working full time.
He intially was ok with dec 2027 but now he says will be really hard to plan with his masters and I'll be jeopardizing his degree by trying to get married during his masters and that I don't care about his future or career. And he says he doesn't know how hard and how much pressure his masters will put on him and he doesn't want a wedding to disturb his studying.
My point is most of the wedding planning will be done by me and our parents my bf might just have to fly to India once to pick out his outfits. And im even open to dec 2026 so we can plan before his masters start. But he thinks I'm not looking at his pov at all and just want to get married because I'm done with all my life goals.
We also want 2 kids before 33/34 so it's important we have a timeline. The only option he suggested is we register our marriage next year and I live with his parents for 2 years and then do the hindu wedding in dec 2028. But for me the registering marriage is more of a formality and then waiting 2 years to plan the wedding seems useless since I'm alrdy moved in with his family. We won't be able to rent out since he won't be working during his masters.
So now he thinks I'm nagging him and pressuring him for discussing the future and he just wants to date and be in the moment right now. So now I have left the ball in his court and I'll just wait for him to come tell me if he has a plan or wants to discuss the future.
Would love to have insights or solutions on how to navigate?