I've (37)been getting to know this woman (35) for a month and we recently became intimate and incredibly close emotionally this week. It feels much more profound but also calm, safe, and slow burn than my last WLW relationship. We are both on the cusp of saying the L word (I don't say it lightly). For me, being vulnerable and open to love really scares me, because it's where you can feel the greatest pain, l fear she's all in now and is going to fall out just as quickly. How can I continue to keep my heart open and lean in without quickly tipping into codependent territory? We're both obsessed with each other right now, no desire to rush moving in 6-12months or anything. We've both done lots of therapy and have open dialogue.
I would greatly appreciate feedback esp from other same sex couples. I'm very excited and don't want to ruin a great beautiful thing bc I'm scared but also want to be intentional