To be fair, I'm not experienced, but I'd assumed that I'd find a greater level of enjoyment while messing around. Lost my virginity not too long ago, it was painful and I felt no pleasure. I already know this wasn't an ideal first-time experience.
I've met another guy who I like. Maybe it's too early to tell, but we already messed around once, not sex, and I hardly felt any pleasure. We tried multiple different things. He really tried but I just didn't feel pleasure. Maybe it was because I was nervous(I was enjoying it but was still pretty fucking nervous at multiple points), but I'm wondering if it's actually the manner in which I've been masturbating for years.
I've read a few different online articles about this in the past. The only way I know how to masturbate is through squeezing my legs together. I don't know what it does but it feels good, and I've done it for years. According to these online articles, this isn't something new and something that some women go through: masturbating by squeezing their legs and finding trouble feeling pleasure anywhere else.
I've tried following the advice of these articles, trying to get myself into the mood, looking for other ways to physically pleasure myself, using imagination.
The only place that I've found a reaction is my clit, and I'm not sure if there's a measure of pleasure or just sensitivity, but playing with it is not the most enjoyable activity.
I'm looking forward to experimenting again with this guy, but I'm worried it's going to go nowhere. What are the best ways to get turned on? The best ways to feel physical pleasure? And how do I calm my nerves when trying to have fun with another person? Mentally, I really want to have fun, but it's not translating physically.