As the title says my boyfriend (22M) of 10 months just gave me (18F) an ultimatum recently and it feels so absolutely bonkers I came to my longtime abandoned reddit for answers. For background I just started university so my boyfriend and I have just gone long distance for the first time and I think he's feeling a little insecure about it. He's always asking about the people I've met and sliding in comments about how I probably feel so out of his league now that I'm a university student but I've always reassured him that theres nothing to worry about. He tends to call me to try and be the background noise while I'm studying since I like having something to listen to but it always ends up with me forgetting my work since he wants my full attention which is cute the first time until you're fighting to get an assignment done and you're being nagged to do shitty buzzfeed quizzes. Back to the background noise thing ever since elementary school I've always watched smosh either for fun or as my version of the lofi girl. So I still listen to mostly smosh reddit stories while I'm doing work and occasionally my boyfriend will ask which episode I originally thought because he wanted to watch it but you'll see later it was much weirder.
A little more backstory (I'm so sorry I promise it's important) Damian Haas has consistently been one of my favourite members of smosh for years even having an innocent childhood crush on him but it wasn't anything obsessive I just thought he was funny. My boyfriend knew all this information since I told him when we were watching and he seemed totally fine with it. We used to watch smosh together quite a bit too but a few hours ago we were on call and I mentioned offhandedly that I was watching a smosh reddit stories video beforehand while working, he asked which one and I responded the oops all assholes one. He went quiet for a bit I'm assuming so he could go check the episode but then he asks me if we could talk and it sounded serious so I agreed. Next thing I know he shares me a google doc documenting every time I've ever mentioned Damian Haas from smosh or anytime I was watching a video with him in it and went off on me talking about how I was having an emotional affair with Damian Haas and that if I wanted to make our relationship work I'd have to "let go of my unhealthy obsession". I was sort of in shock and almost convinced myself it was some strange prank before he hung up and gave me until Monday to make my choice.
Like this feels actually stupid but I really do love him and this relationship like is there any way to convince him that hes being a bit controlling while also not ending my relationship but also still being able to watch what I want?
TL;DR I watch smosh and like Damian Haas my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating with him and is threatening to leave me if I don't stop watching