I simply have not enjoyed my sexual experiences. I think there are three main reasons for this –

  1. I essentially cannot cum, my “sensitive” parts start to hurt and I have to stop.

  2. I am starting to think I may be asexual. I am not sexually attracted to my partner, nor have an ever been so with anyone else.

  3. I don’t think my partner is the, uh, best at it either. (His idea of foreplay for example, is lube a toy and stick it in.)

I will say that while I enjoy self pleasure more, it’s still not for pleasure. It’s more like taking care of a physical need, rather than anything for fun.

The problem is that I have no idea how to bring this up with my partner. He’s a good guy and I don’t want to hurt him, but… it’s something that I think will need discussed at some point :/

Any advice?


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