I have been getting to know a 30-year-old man who is religious and a virgin. I am in my late 20s, sensuous by nature, and currently abstaining to avoid men who are only after my body. We already had a respectful talk about beliefs, and he seems open to my views. He also said he is fine with me being more sexually experienced. He is kind and has qualities I value, but attraction is my sticking point because I do not feel much sex appeal. Presentation is part of it. He looks very formal but I like men who are stylish or at least open to a simple, modern update. I put effort into my appearance, I work out regularly, and I choose outfits and styles that suit me.
He told me my looks picked his interest when he saw me, and I think that if he likes my appearance he could be open to updating his. I want to bring this up in a way that is kind and not controlling, since I do not want to turn him into a project. I just want to see whether a small style refresh moves my attraction more.Would bringing up the style issue during a date at which I plan to, dress my best, be a good idea or should just forget about him?