I don’t know what to do here.
I have the most amazing husband. We have been married for almost 20 years. He is wonderful in every way.
So I stupidly left my Womanizer charging in our bedroom, and he had no idea that I owned one. He was at first shocked and then was livid. He did not speak to me for almost a week. When I confronted him about it, I lost my shit when he told me he didn’t want to talk to me about it, and told him it had nothing to do with him, and that I didn’t say anything about the instagram girls he probably jacked off to. This just made everything even worse (probably because he doesn’t even watch porn, and he likes a few girly pages on insta – the same as I like a few tattooed men’s pages- so it was really just me saying something stupid).
Anyway we have been talking again. But apart from calling me “hon” a few times, and apart from rubbing my sore shoulder the other day and briefly touching my arm when we were paying for something at the shop, he hasn’t hugged or kissed me since.
He is usually such a touchy feely person and I have never felt so lonely in my life. If anything, I am the one who doesn’t really like hugs/affection normally. But this is literally killing me.
I don’t know if I should try and touch him or if I should ask permission for a hug. One part of me wants to ask if he still loves me. I am so scared he will reject my touch.
Also- for background- the topic of the toy hasn’t come up since. As much as I want to talk it out, I know him- he will not want to speak about it. And yes, we normally do have sex (probably not as often as we would like as we have kids) but I never deny him as I probably want it more than him these days. If anything I really thin he is going through a midlife crisis and not feeling very manly and a bit old at the moment- and I think this was like the ultimate insult to him.
Any suggestions or advice??
Edited to add- this happened a month ago now.