Hi all, first post ever. Signed up on Reddit yesterday basically for this sort of community. I’m a mid 40’s (m) and have been married for almost 15 years. We have two great teenage kids(who are amazing) and a nice home, Both have rewarding careers. From the outside looking in It probably seems like we have it all, but what we don’t have, is much connection. We have slept in separate bedrooms for years, our communication on anything intimate has pretty much stopped. We have had sex once in the last four months. Last time I brought it up, she said we weren’t in the right place(mentally, emotionally) for it. I’m not sure what to do. We have poor communication habits and seem to have somehow ended up like roommates. I believe we love each other, but wonder if the years of putting everything else first(kids, work, hobbies)has allowed a space to form between us, that is somehow now too wide to close. I think maybe therapy would be the next suggestion, every time I try to talk about our situation with my wife, she just asks what I think we should do. I don’t feel much buy in from her at this point. We will celebrate 15 years soon and I can’t help wonder if it will be the last.