Me and my partner have been together since highschool and we had alot of ups and downs, but recently things have been overall pretty stabilized except for this one thing.
I have a high libido but recently every time we have sex I don’t end up getting off. Most of the time he does try to put in the effort but when he finishes its over and I dont want to continue anymore. I end up just getting myself off with a vibrator 99% of the time. The thing is I really enjoy having sex but I don’t look forward to it with him anymore because its not satisfying for me anymore.
Im stuck because he is perfect in every way, and I know everyone says that about their partner, but he communicates amazing, is very compassionate and treats me exceptionally. We don’t even really argue. But I also feel like I cant live the rest of my life with mediocre sex and I dont know if im just being immature and I just need to suck it up and get a sex toy or something or if I should really consider going through with leaving. But it also raises the question im throwing away an otherwise perfectly healthy relationship for sex. I don’t know what to do and I really need help.