My husband and I haven’t spoken for 2 days and I feel very anxious and tense under the same roof as him. I wanted to offer an olive branch to initiate repair between us.
I texted him this: “Hey. I've been thinking a lot about your text last week about wanting to see your mom and sister.
The first thing I want to say is that I realize my response of 'winter' came across as dismissive to you, and I am sorry that it hurt you. That wasn't my intention, but I wish I had thought about how sensitive of a topic this is for the both of us.
I am realizing I don't fully understand the context, and I want to. The urgency and importance of reconnecting with them right now isn't something I'm aware of, but I want to be. I want to understand what's coming up for you and what this step means to you.
I feel there was a misunderstanding about how the request was made and how I heard it. I want to understand your perspective better, and I'd like to share mine too, so we can both feel more connected and less hurt in the future.
I don’t want there to continue to be this unpleasant tension between us, I want to get along again. Would you be willing to help me understand your perspective better when you feel ready to talk?”
He responded with just: “Thanks maybe”
How do I even respond to that?