My husband and I have been married for 5 years now, with no kid. We have very little intimacy lately, and when I brought it up, he told me it’s because we don’t have a clear plan for our future together, especially about children. He says that emotionally, he is not “in the mood” without that sense of direction.
The problem is that this physical distance makes me feel less like planning for the future. It feels a bit like I’m being punished: no intimacy until I commit to children, or at least I come up with a strong plan . I’m absolutely against the idea of forcing intimacy, so I don’t want to pressure him but I feel rejected and lonely.
I can’t help but also worry that if we do have children, intimacy will disappear even more.
I am sincerely considering divorce as this situation seems like a endless loop.
Has anyone experienced something similar? How do you navigate when intimacy is tied to life plans?