Let me start by saying, my (44f) husband (43m) is my best friend. I have no intention on leaving him. He has always been a big guy. He can diet and lose a ton of weight and gain it all back. Right now he is at the biggest I’ve ever seen him. He is wearing a 5x shirt and I think 56 pants. I recently lost over 100lbs. I’m feeling more confident in my body, but intimacy is 👎 since he is so large. He is constantly out of breath and instead of being active like he used to be, he now spends the majority of his free time in the recliner which frustrates me more because “his” jobs around the house (like taking out the trash or doing yard work) has fallen on me and our children.
Like I said, I have no plans to leave.. but I feel like should also be attracted to my spouse and less resentful. I wouldn’t even know how to sit down and talk to him about how I feel because I know it would crush him.