Just need to vent a bit.. I(52f) have been married for almost 27 years. My husband(53m) has had a pretty drastic personality change in the last few months. He is cranky, refuses to say he loves me and when he does he says I love you sometimes and typically sleeps in the spare room. He use to leave me love notes, be affectionate and tell me he loves me all the time. It literally stopped over night. At first I thought it was because he hurt is back but now that his back is feeling better I can’t excuse it away. Last night was the final straw. He had dinner with friends and he insulted, made fun of me and basically said he doesn’t love me anymore. It was so uncomfortable. My friends pulled me aside and said the way he talks to me is abusive. I’ve tried talking to him but it gets me no where. I haven’t spoke to him since last night and honestly can’t even look at him. We have such a beautiful life, I just don’t understand what he’s thinking. I can only assume he’s having an affair. It certainly wouldn’t be the first time. I have a full time job so I could leave and start over. I just don’t know where to start. Any advice is welcome!