Not sure if this is the right place for this, but I'm looking for experience from people who had kids, especially from women. I (F31) had my second baby this year in May, my first in 2023, both were C-sections. A lot has changed in our sex life since then, which I guess is to be expected, but I'd like to know if anyone else has experienced these changes and if they stayed or if it went back to normal.
First of all my libido increased by a lot during late pregnancy and after birth. Our sex drives used to match pretty well and now mine is higher, which isn't an issue for me. I couldn't keep my hands off him during that time. Hell, after my C-section we waited a whole 9 days before having sex (anal, because piv isn't safe right after birth). I got wet way more easily and came more easily as well (it's always been difficult for me). But now almost 5 months postpartum I don't get wet as easily and also struggle to reach orgasm. Libido went down again a bit but not as low as it was before kids. When I checked with a mirror I also think it looks different down there, even though I only had C-sections. I feel like I have less sensation now as well? It takes more intense stimulation that it used to I think. After baby #2 was also the first time for me having multiple O's more or less easily, but it's been difficult lately again.
Obviously sex with two small kids in the house is difficult and we get interrupted now and then and we are always exhausted, but i don't think those are really the issue here. It's more about my body and how it feels. If you experienced something similar, did it change back?