I (31F) have been dating my boyfriend (25M) for about a months now. I've never dated younger than my age but my bf (we'll call him Sam) seemed very responsible, emotionally mature, funny, understood my life (single parent) it seemed like a good fit.
In the beginning, Sam would plan dates and hangouts regularly. I would see him 2 to 3 days a week which is great, never would have expected that. He would text and snap me a lot and I've never experienced that kind of attention.
Within the last 2 months, he has started to act differently. I'm trying not to project past experiences onto this relationship but it feels very "side chick " energy like I'm the side chick. He rarely texts, only snaps I get are ones he sends to his stories, I am way more interested in physical time, and he has fallen through on plans multiple times.
I have had a conversation with him twice now about how all of this is making me feel and asking if maybe I need to adjust how I give love (like love language) and he said "I can't let you give me love like that because it destroys all I am as a man".
I haven't seen him in 2 weeks and we barely speak. I don't know when I will see him face to face again and I don't want to drag this on anymore. My heart hurts and I feel like his lack of action is his response to my last conversation.
Would I be an Ahole if I have a clear and concise conversation via text explaining I don't think I can do this anymore?