Rough timeline:
Knew her for about two months.
Spoke everyday, no disagreements, always laughing; long calls, sometimes she’d fall asleep on the phone.
First date was perfect, she even agreed. Planned meticulously, definitely something she hadn’t experienced before.
She had me “screened” by her best friends, and they seemed to like me.
Second date was nicer, as I had knew who she was and conversations felt cozy, we held hands, the night kept going on, no signs of pulling away or disinterest.
Third, we studied together, I bought her snacks and dinner prior to give, to make sure she felt accommodated and appreciated. Kissed multiple times, lots of smiles, lots of jokes. Despite a busy work schedule with introductory placements, we made time and it didn’t feel forced; she said when her placement ends, we’d get to spend lots more time around each other and she seemed excited to.
But this is when things changed.
We had placed to meet on that weekend, dinner and an evening activity was booked.
She never responded.
I called to see if she was okay, ignored 3 times.
I messaged intermittently and sparingly – I wasn’t clingy, they were brief and always had her interests, not mine. She had mentioned she always got excited when she got a notification from me, just developed the habit of not replying straight away. I understand. I’m not sure if this was the case during the abrupt silence.
I waited a week and was confused. Out of concern for her, I went to visit, brought treats for her sick cat and left them at her door.
I did call on the drive home and that’s when she said sorry for being absent (but it didn’t feel like a sorry, if just felt like chatting). Said she didn’t have time for a relationship (which felt very left field and unlike her), said I did everything perfectly (her words), was incredibly friendly and even sounded giddy on the call. I asked how if I did anything wrong, so maybe the next relationship might go long term, she said she couldn’t think of anything. I said I’d reach out and would love to stay in touch. She said that would be nice. I did this knowing she might not reply again.
Today, a day later, she blocked me.
I get we were in the introductory phase, but one can’t help wonder what on earth happened? I get people can date multiple people and I maybe drew a short straw, but she didn’t seem like that sort of person. I also presume this problem isn’t unique to me, but I wouldn’t mind some advice on how someone goes from excited, talking for hours everyday, to silence and not interested in even seeing what you’ve messaged anymore?