As the title says.We've been together for 4 years. I (25F) found out by accident. I am crushed. He never cheated so that's why I am so confused as to what to do. He had feelings for her for about a year and he swears that he figured out that it was only physical attraction by the end and he doens't want to break up with me over it. He's been devestated about this for quite some time, and he says that he already cut the connection in his head even before I found out, but my trust is shattered. My question is how can we reapir this relationship?
I really feel like I still love him through this and I was pretty happy with our relationship. We've always been friends first and honestly, I even feel a bit sorry for him for how much he suffered through it.
I will go to therapy, I can't sleep since I found out. And I am here because I don't have anyone else to turn to.
TLDR – bf in love with someone else for a year, we've been together for 4 years. He never cheated and already cut the connection. We want to repair our relationship, but what are the steps to doing it?