So long story short, I really like this girl. She’s a very cute soul and a loving girl, however she has done things in her past that reflects her behaviors now. Some of those stuff are self-harm, outrageous cussing out of no where and very little to almost no self control when it comes to feelings. That has obviously made it clear for me that it will not work out in the very long run (marriage or a very long term relationship) however, at this moment we enjoy eachother company and we have started to get more physical nowadays, which has led to me becoming more attached to this girl. To a point where sometimes I could think about her multiple times a day and even prioritize her over stuff I should be doing, I don’t really like that. And want to change it.
If there is any tips regarding that, I would love to hear it.
I would also like to say that I see this girl many times every single day, like minimum of 3-4 times a day we live across eachother. And also I do not want to ruin what is between us (obviously) because I really do like her and enjoying being with her, however not to the point where being too attached to her.
Side note: before anyone jumps on me and says that I should be honest with her about what I see and what I want, I already have. We have great communication and have discussed our plans for the future later and whet we see in eachother, she could see me as a partner for life and I can too however not for life.
Tldr: too attached to this girl I like that it’s kind of ruining my schedule for the day, how do I become more detached in a healthy way while maintaining a relationship with her.