I have this friend who I met through my bf. He’s very kind, friendly, easy to get along with. He’s genuinely such a caring man. But I have been concerned with sometimes how he approaches relationships. But I don’t know if I’m in bounds to say anything. I’ve known him for a 2 years now.
For one, he’s been in 4-5 relationships
since he was 16 and with very minimal gaps between break up to the next relationship. After he was broken up with by his last gf, (who is also my friend, so it’s kinda awks in the friend group) we all told him that he should be single for a while. Figure himself out, etc.
Within a month, he was in a new relationship. So I was like “wow that’s fast, are you concerned with not properly healing?” And he said no, he thought about it but he’s taking it slow (I mean he says that but I feel like he’s not taking it slow). At that point I’m like what can ya do, we already gave him our opinions.
And then I find out who she is. Shes 19, she’s a sweet girl but she’s quite immature. But so is he at times.
He also has a tendency to overshare and basically commented on their sex lives – how they have the same kinks and etc etc. idk it makes me feel icky since she’s not that experienced (she’s been with other people before him but still less experienced) so this alignment of sexual kinks is coming from her being with him.
He didn’t tell me this persons name yet but told my bf. I’m bracing that he will tell me soon.
Where my dilemma comes in: i don’t want to come off fully supportive as his decisions because I’m not. I think this current relationship will end in another break-up because she seems to figuring things out. But I also don’t want to be super vocal because I know at this point, he’s not really taking anyone’s advice and I don’t want to lose him as a friend.
Is there a way I can be honest without being overtly critical?
TLDR friend makes bad choices in his love life. Want to be honest