So I, (18) F and my boyfriend (18) M have been together for a year. We had broken up over the summer because my parents had gotten on my phone and blocked him on everything because of a crude joke he made to me in a group chat with our friends. He is my best friend of 4 years and we have a relatively really good and healthy relationship. The only problem we seem to face is our parents. My parents don’t like him very much nor his mom. His mom is a little bit more understandable because she has spoken very bad about me, cut me out of my wrestling banquet, left me behind before, and overall spoken very ill of my family. They don’t like him very much because we were in the same friend group as my ex, they feel he is cowardly and disrespectful towards me but I don’t agree I just don’t think they understand our humor. I am now a freshman in college many states away and he is away at bootcamp. My parents have given me permission to speak to him again but they don’t want me in a relationship with him because they are not over the stress his family brought to mine. They don’t want me going to his graduation and threatened that if I go I can not come go home. I’m very serious about my bf and I don’t know what to do because I know how important and significant his graduation day is and how important it is for me to be there. My parents want to have control over me and even though I am states away I have to constantly ask them for permission to date, to go out, etc. what do I do ? Am I old enough to make decisions on my own?
TL;DR: I want to go to my boyfriends bootcamp graduation, my parents don’t want me to go they still expect me to ask them for permission, am I an adult yet? I am a freshman in college multiple states away.