I’m messaging with this guy I’m supposed to go out with this weekend…a previous date between us got cancelled, so there’s been another extra week of chatting before the rescheduled date. I had no sense of his personality at first, so I was projecting all kinds of ideas of how he could be because he’s a pretty formal, sparse texter. Not much to work with, so I could fill in the blanks with anything.
Now that the date has been rescheduled and we’re texting more, I’m starting to realize his sparse texting isn’t so mysterious and intimidating and is maybe just…how he is? He’s warm enough, but there’s very little substance over text.
I know some people are more lively and talkative irl but I’m starting to think we won’t be compatible. It doesn’t seem like we have much in common. There’s not much banter, joking, or interesting ideas being shared, just basic, “how was your day” “how was your night” “good I did this” “busy day for me” etc etc. I initially felt uncomfortable with this because I’m a bit more wordy and had to “scale back” so I wouldn’t be “too much.” Now I’m not so nervous and message him naturally, but again, convo’s not giving much.
It’s also a bit frustrating to go on dates where like, maybe a guy doesn’t list his politics on his profile, but then I meet him in person and he says, “Oh, I’m not political” even though politics are a part of my profile and I care about them aligning with mine. Maybe I need to be more specific, but then guys don’t always pay attention to that being important. I just don’t want to waste my time in case this guy’s politics aren’t aligned either.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone’s had this experience but then met for the date and ended up really hitting it off despite the bad texting/vague profile.