Hi guys,
I’ve been with my boyfriend (both in our early 20s, first relationship) for 2 years and for the most part we have a great sex life. However there is a fetish of his (for lack of a better word) that has kind of always perplexed me. He often requests and can quickly come to the sight of me with my top half covered (by anything from a fitted going-out top to a baggy sweater) whilst my bottom half is completely bare. This is a pretty tame fetish if it is one of course, but I haven’t heard of it before so I’ve been wondering if it’s uncommon and what it means.
My one and only fetish however is that my breasts receive attention. I can orgasm in seconds to nipple stimulation and I have always fantasised that my forever partner would be obsessed with my breasts. I know my boyfriend loves them in the aesthetic sense (I have thankfully been blessed with natural perkiness and roundness) as he’s told me many times, but I get paranoid he is not very sexually attracted to boobs at all given that he likes when my top half is covered.
I brought up this concern last week and asked if he’s not sexually attracted to breasts to which he assured he is, and he only asks me to cover my top half because it looks as though I am mid-strip, which has playful/performative elements that turn him on. I don’t think he is lying necessarily, and maybe this is because I don’t understand how straight men think lol, but my thinking is that if he was truly sexual attracted to my breasts he would want them exposed as much as possible during sex and his fetish would involve this.
Furthermore he will usually only give my breasts attention when I ask, and he is usually soft during so which turns me off as I don’t get sexual satisfaction from knowing my partner is only doing something for my pleasure rather than mutual pleasure.
So I guess my question is, is my boyfriend’s fetish common and what does it mean? Am I correct in thinking he is not sexually attracted to breasts? I know I can’t force my fetish onto him and it’s rare that partners are completely aligned in sexual needs and desires, but the thought that he doesn’t care much if at all for my one fetish has me feeling a bit sad and unsatisfied.