I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagree. But I've had guys dump me when I thought everything was going great, and so I've become very self-conscious. With the last guy I dated, I'd internally feel anxious if I made a joke that didn't completely land or there were moments of silence between us etc. He'd still ask to see me, so I began to feel more comfortable, but ultimately he broke up with me, citing lack of spark (even though in his words, everything was so comfortable/easy but still fun, and he liked kissing me). So now I'm going through the rabbit hole of analyzing every moment where I was awkward and beating myself up for not being more witty or charming or whatever. How do I stop doing this and internalize that the right guy wouldn't care if I wasn't perfect 24/7?


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