I (f22) have been seeing this guy (m22) for 4.5 months, but I’m struggling to connect emotionally. We’ve only been on two actual dates outside of the house, and unless I ask, he doesn’t plan anything. We spend a lot of time together but most of it feels shallow, and the only intimacy is sex. I’m the one who initiates hugs or kisses, and sometimes he pushes me off. When we’re together, he’s often distracted on his phone or laptop. He won’t meet me at the train station as it’s ‘only a 3 min walk away’ to me that means he doesn’t wanna go out the way for me , hasn’t told his family about me, and doesn’t involve me with his friends. It feels like he’s lazy and comfortable with the convenience of our situation. It seems as though he wants a girlfriend but not the commitment , it’s like we’re part-time roommates who have sex. I want to like him, but I’m struggling to develop feelings. I feel guilty because he hasn’t done anything terrible he cooks dinner, we laugh, and he’s not a bad guy but he’s boring, low-effort, and I don’t want to settle when i know i’ve put my highest effort in. i’ve tried to stick it out but i don’t know what to do or where to go from here