I’m currently a 26 year old guy. In a few months I will be 27 years old, and I have never been in a relationship and have never kissed a girl. I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me. It does. It really bothers me. However, I’m trying to learn how to make it not bother me. I’m trying to let go of that insecurity.
The reason why it’s never happened for me is simple. I’ve tried very little. It’s completely my fault because I never felt good enough so I rarely tried very hard if at all. In high school and college I would pine over a girl and just hope she liked me back without ever actually asking them out. The one or two times I did I was let down easy. So I just stop trying because I hated myself.
I’m working on not hating myself anymore, I’m trying to fix my biggest issue I have with myself. I’m overweight and have been all my life. I recognize that my weight is not the sole reason I’ve never had a girlfriend, but it plays a factor because I’ve always viewed myself as unattractive because of it.
I want this weight off more than anything. This is something I want to do for myself. Will it help me be more attractive? Maybe. But this is something I want to do for me, not anyone else.
So I’m dedicating the better part of a year to this weight loss journey. However, by the time I’m done I will be 27 and still with no experience. I feel like the ship has sailed even if I make all this self-improvement. Does my inexperience make me screwed no matter what?