I (M33) am inexperienced in both relationships and especially sex. I've had 2 "official" relationships — both long distance.
First one when I was 18 and it lasted only 6 months. I broke it off before she was going to "give me her virginity" for my 19th birthday, but because she was 16/17 at the time her parents wouldn't let her out often when I'd come back to town (I was in college) so I knew I wasn't going to get consistent sex and if virginity meant that much for her, I didn't want to eventually break it off after we'd have sex, because I felt I'd end up breaking up with her anyway due to the distance. She also scared the shit out of me by wanting me to perform a 2 person play in her high school drama class where I would "propose" to her. It was based off a Kay Jeweler commercial, I believe.
Second relationship was when I was 27 and I finally lost my virginity. It was also long distance, but she'd come over to visit me every other weekend or so and we'd just have as much sex as we could during the weekend (but also do dates and stuff). It lasted for a year and a half. The relationships ended because of reasons related to the pandemic — my mental/physical health went to shit, I lost my job, and had to move back home with my parents which put us further away from each other. She also had a kid and well.. I didn't want to get too serious with her anyway. I never met the kid, either. To be fair, I initially told her I wasn't looking for anything serious but I felt like the sex and emotional intimacy kept me hooked and ended up official anyway. She was cool as hell, but I couldn't do the kid thing.
Other than that, I've had several female friends. Some who even ended up taking me to their bedroom and their beds, but because I was inexperienced I'd either freeze up or leave early so nothing would ever come close to sex. I've had women interested in me, but it's mostly ones that I'm not attracted to, physically. It's only when I feel confident in my body which is when I'm at a healthy weight and not overweight, that I can actually attract the type of women I find physically attractive. And I've gone on some dates as well since high school.
I've been told I can be funny, a great conversationalist, smart (I do have an engineering degree), and a good listener.
Am I doomed for most women or do I still have a decent shot?