I met a guy about 3 weeks ago (he’s 31, I’m 28). We hit it off right away—messaged constantly the first few days, and we have a lot in common: active lifestyle, same hobbies, and honestly, he’s super sweet, kind, and smart. We’ve gone on a date every week since meeting, and he’s initiated all of them.
After our first date, he asked for my number. After our second, we kissed and he told me he really likes me. The third date (last week) was the movies—we held hands, cuddled, it felt really natural. He dropped me home, we hugged and he mentioned we'd talk during the week to plan the next date. So date 4 (week 4).
When he got home, he messaged me like normal, we spoke all night and wished eachother good night.
But then—radio silence from Friday to Sunday, which is weird for him. He usually would have reached out. I gave it until Sunday afternoon and texted him first. He responded totally normally—same tone, emojis, jokes, everything felt fine. But since that convo, I haven’t heard from him again (now it’s Wednesday), and I’m not sure how to feel. The week has not ended and he didn't say which day but typically he sets up dates Tuesday/Wednesday.
I don’t want to play games or pretend I’m unbothered, but he’s not my boyfriend, so I feel awkward bringing it up. At the same time, something feels off—my gut is nudging me, even though he hasn't technically done anything wrong. I’ve been focusing on my own stuff, but I keep thinking about this.
What do you think? Am I overthinking or should I be concerned?
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You should text to initiate plans for this week, show some initiave, but don’t be surprised if hes moved on. This has happened to me before and its usually due to some other girl
I would ask him if he’s still interested in a date in an open way. Like ask him if he’s still interested was still interested another date soon, and when is he free? Put the ball in his court but in a no pressure kind of way so it gives him the opportunity to say no. Get your answer.
Always trust your gut. I just match the persons behavior. If someone I had gone on three dates with wasn’t hitting me up he wouldn’t hear from me until he reached out.
If you leave him alone then in 1-2 weeks you’ll know if he’s interested. By then you may have lost interest as well.
Silence and time says everything you need to know in dating. UNLESS you do feel strongly towards him, then in that case come out and say it. Then you do run the risk of him ghosting as a lot of people do in these early stages, unfairly the majority of the time. Again, at least you’ll know, but it isn’t very nice finding out this way.