My friend and I had a fight about her not being able to pay for a trip my friend group were supposed to go on. She's notorious for this. She tried to pay me less than what was owed, and when I asked her for the correct amount, she tried to manipulate me into thinking I had done something wrong. When I called her out, she took our private argument to the entire group chat and claimed I tried to tell her she couldn't go because she couldn't afford it. It was a huge mess and it ended with me calling her out publicly and her leaving the trip group chat. The trip ended up being cancelled a few days later because someone else backed out.
It's been a few weeks since that argument, and we haven't spoken. Things are still very tense with ALL of my friends (who were on my side when all the dust settled) but things just haven't been the same. I've heard from at least one friend that she's mentioned that she knows she was in the wrong and wants to have a conversation with me about everything. However, the farther we get from the incident, the more I think that she's just BSing everyone in the group to make it look like she WANTS to make amends. She hasn't reached out to me at all.
This is small snapshot of our 10+ year friendship. There are many instances of this. I'm always the bigger person, but I just don't have the energy this time. I believe I'm owed an apology and I'm a little irritated that she's telling people she wants to apologize but hasn't spoken to me. I have this sinking feeling that she's going to manipulate everyone into ousting me from the group, and that I'll start to notice that I'm not invited to things. It's happened before. All because she tried to lie her way out of paying for a trip.
TL;DR: Friend and I had a private argument that she made everyone else's problem. Now she's going around saying that she wants to apologize but hasn't said anything to me. I believe she's trying to create a narrative that I'm the one in the wrong so she can use it to exclude me from group activities instead of apologizing to me.