She lives in another state 🙁

Matched last week as she’s in my city visiting family and is looking for a job here. She came right out and said she’s just visiting. Decided to just have a friendly chat that ended up pretty deep. She then extended her trip until tomorrow and that she’d love to meet.

We met up Friday and I feel we both had an awesome time. Made plans the rest of the weekend with her and seeing her again tonight before she goes home. Haven’t had these butterflies in years.

We both expressed wanting to continue chatting and seeing where things go. The fact she loves it here and looking for a job here is making me want to try a long distance relationship. We kind of talked about this possibility and I’ll get a better understanding what we’re going to do tonight.

Neither of us have done a LDR before. We’re both older (40m, 36f) and share a lot of the same values. Not to mention she’s drop dead gorgeous, smart, and funny. Has anyone had success in a long distance thing or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? I can tell I’m falling for her and the way she is around me, I think she is too.


3 comments

  1. I’d say just try and see where it goes. It’s better to at least try then to just ponder what could’ve been

  2. Given that she’s looking for a job in your city its definitely worth keeping in touch with her.

    But if it turns out she cant find a job there I think the distance will be tough and it would be better to move on. 

  3. I’ve had a, I guess, successful 2 year LDR, ironically it actually fell apart when we eventually closed the gap. He had a lot of issues lol. I am also now dating someone in a different state (I’m in Australia but same concept), it’s too early to tell if it’ll be successful but so far it’s been incredible. I just got home from spending 4 days with him and the distance really allows us to build up, appreciate each other, and miss each other. We’re both “all in” types of people also so it’s probably good at keeping us in check a little.

    Only you can decide if it’s something that would work for you – I have two extremely successful relationships in my life (a parent and a friend) that started as long distance, both are happily married and living together now but literally started on opposite sides of the planet. It can absolutely work out if you’re willing to make the effort.

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