It’s crazy how quickly your luck can turn on the apps! Here’s my recent experience!

So after a nice long break for my mental health I eventually got back on the apps for the bajillionth time but unfortunately I had yet another streak of bad luck. Skipping out all the dud matches and short-lived convos, this all happened within the last 2ish months:

Guy 1: We spent like a month messaging but he was super inconsistent; sometimes he'd message me non-stop for hours, other times he'd only message me at 10pm once or twice. I quickly got the vibe he was the type to use people for attention and never actually meet but as he wasn't super reluctant to make plans I decided to wait it out in case I was wrong… I wasn't. I got exactly what I was expecting and was completely ghosted on the day. This didn't bother me too much though as I wasn't expecting anything anyways and he was a fun distraction.

Guy 2: We spent 2 weeks messaging but turns out he has kids which he didn't originally disclose and that is a deal breaker for me. More time wasted.

Guy 3: Got briefly invested here as he was lovely and I could see us being a good match. Thankfully we actually went on a date after about a week of messaging too but he cut the date weirdly short so I sadly figured he wasn't interested. Surprising though he reassured me afterwards that he was actually super into me but just had things to do that day so I brushed it off and agreed to more plans… which he then ghosted me for on the day of. A day later he apologised, giving me a somewhat believable excuse but in the end I called it quits because we tried meeting up twice more but he cancelled on the day both times. It became clear he didn't have the time in his life to actually date someone (workaholic, gym addict).

Guy 4: I was dumb and accidentally matched with my ex who I previously dated for 3-4 months last year. I broke up with him previously because he wasn't very emotionally mature, being rather nasty to me after I opened up to him about something sensitive. I had no intention of getting back in contact with him at all but before I even knew I matched with him he had already sent a message apologising and seemed genuine. I was still super reluctant but eventually I gave in and decided to give a second chance. However after like 2 days of him seeming super interested, he did a complete 180 and it felt like he was bread crumbing me; wanting me to chase after his attention. The worst part is messaging him in general dug back up tons of bad feelings and anxiety from when we last dated so after a week of suffering I unmatched him with no explanation and god it felt good.

Guy 5: …MY BOYFRIEND!!! After unmatching my ex I thought I was done with dating once again because that really did a number on me mentally but thankfully I held on a little longer because literally 1 day later I matched with a super duper lovely guy who I clicked with INSTANTLY. Like it's actually crazy how well we get along and how much we have in common. We quickly made plans, had the best first date I've ever had even though half of it was literally just sitting in his car talking and then we went on date after date! He's even just unintentionally met my family and they all love him, everything is just so perfect but not in a "too perfect" way, it's actually real! The craziest part is I've only known him for 3 weeks total but things are moving fast because he truly does feel like the one, which is something I've never felt before despite having multiple long term relationships. Oh and thankfully the feeling is mutual which is why he's just asked to be my boyfriend, yay! 🙂

Thought I'd share this so that all the people who are having a horrible time on the apps and feel hopeless know that you're not alone and something great might just be around the corner!